This pain is not to make you sad, remember. That's where people go on
missing.... This pain is just to make you more alert--because people
become alert only when the arrow goes deep into their heart and wounds
them. Otherwise they don't become alert. When life is easy,
comfortable, convenient, who cares? Who bothers to become alert? When
a friend dies, there is a possibility. When your woman leaves you
alone--those dark nights, you are lonely. You have loved that woman so
much and you have staked all, and then suddenly one day she is gone.
Crying in your loneliness, those are the occasions when, if you use
them, you can become aware. The arrow is hurting: it can be used. The
pain is not to make you miserable, the pain is to make you more aware!
And when you are aware, misery disappears.
Osho Take it Easy, Volume 2 Chapter 12