Arranged marriage, n. A marriage not chosen by the parties involved;
arranged marriages exhibit far lower divorce rates than those
That they be more successful is not really as strange as it may seem
In America, you marry the girl you love; in India, you love the
girl you marry.
-A man speaking in a video on Indian philosophy
There is a fundamental difference in how arranged and voluntarily
chosen marriages tend to be approached. Voluntary marriages tend to be
approached as "If I can just find the right person, we can live
happily ever after."; arranged marriages are not approached with any
delusions of being an effortless bliss or some sort of box that one
can take things out of without putting anything into. But with poorer
conditions -- with a bride and groom that not only have not chosen
each other, but have not necessarily met before the day of the wedding
- -- people decide to make it work. Therefore it is not the lands of
arranged marriages, but America, which is the land of divorce.
The difference between expecting something to be fruitful without any
effort and without any sacrifice, and expecting something to be
difficult (but choosing via effort and sacrifice to make it work) is a
difference between disappointment and a rewarding joy, and applies to
much more of life than only marriage.
- -- Hayward's Unabridged Dictionary